Is comparing you to other women considered emotional abuse?

If he was looking at you as a stranger pes by and joking, "What a hottie!" that would be sharing his attractions with you in a positive way, but that ISN'T what is happening here. Obviously, if every little detail ends up going back to another woman he has feelings for, then he isn't over them. I don't know if I would go so far as to consider it abuse, because it sounds like he is too selfish to even realize how hurtful he's being, but this is obviously emotionally and mentally distressing for you. If you haven't been already, you have to be completely clear about how much this is hurting you, because you should not have to endure it--any man is lucky to be in a relationship with you. If he's too stupid to realize that having you is a luxury and he shouldn't be comparing you to any other woman, then you need to give him more than boundaries, but an ultimatum. How would he feel if all you said all the time was "Haha, when you hug me, it reminds me of so-and-so" or "You smell like so-and-so today" or "I saw him today..."? It's very important that you recognize that nothing about what he's doing is okay or justifiable or fair. It's completely unfair to you, whether he is being hurtful unintentionally or not. You deserve someone who can devote their heart to you and only you.